I have no problem with people expressing their love. but up to now, I really am trying hard to understand the mindset behind posting pictures of them after an intimate moment?
I’m no conservative in views. However, I just don’t appreciate things or actions that put other people in sort of “harassed state”. Am too feels like “harassed” or embarrassed seeing such photos or videos. This is not to say that I’m saint. But, first, those moments should at least be “private” and just between the two persons, at least in my views. Second, specially if you’re gay, people tend to view it “more” immoral than how they see heteros do it. And with the “generalizing attitude” that most of the people have, those photos or videos give gay love a bad name. Third, for the simple reason that it encourages other people to do the same. Well that’s their prerogative. But the question that I would like to pose: “If even those “private moments” are broadcasted, how much more the other things?. Again, this is not to play saint here.
On the intention of enlightening myself a bit, I read articles online. And I have this feeling that this generation is what they called “Exhibitionist Culture” and “Voyeuristic culture“. Exhibitionism as defined is the act of exposing in a public or semi-public context those parts of one’s body that are not normally exposed…. The practice may arise from a desire or compulsion to expose themselves in such a manner to groups of friends or acquaintances, or to strangers for their amusement or sexual satisfaction” (Baunach, Dawn Michelle. “Exhibitionism” in Sex and Society). This actually has been a form of protest or to obtain social mobility during ancient times. But is considered to be a “mental disorder” by Charles Lasegue on 1877. The definition was also broadened into: “sexual gratification, above and beyond the sexual act itself“. So taking from the early psychiatrist, this generation have gone mad?
Another is the seemingly “popular culture” we have today. Voyeurism by definition “is the sexual interest in or practice of spying on people engaged in intimate behaviors, such as undressing, sexual activity, or other actions usually considered to be of a private nature” (Hirschfeld, M. (1938). Sexual Anomalies and Perversions). This is the primary reason why computer repair shops or anti virus brands don’t go out of business, because there will always be a customer that will ask for help regarding their virus laden computer. Why? because voyeuristic people are the one’s that are lured into a porn website, a Malware, or virus links that post up naked bodies.
However, “spying” or “secretly” watching premise of the definition seems to be invalid nowadays. Why? People don’t get to see anything wrong with looking at those sexually suggestive photos of their friends, or any random person. It has been close to accepted as “normal”.
So, who is normal then? Me or them?
Sociology 101: Symbolic Interactionism – “The majority defines what is normal”.